七年之痒

何谓七年之痒？


其实，在爱情里面，那只是一个比喻，不是一定会经过的。只要你心里不要一直想着这四个字，那就不会发生在你身上。这往往是我们人心里的魔鬼在挑战我们而已。。。


所以说，不想就没事。Law Of Attraction - 只要你想好的，好的事就会跟着来，一旦你想不好的，它也就会被你吸引过来。。那，不如就一直想好的吧！


在爱情里，真正考验的，我相信是彼此爱对方的那种感觉吧！只要你们都一直保持那种爱的感觉，不管你拍拖多久，结了婚多久，你们的爱也会一直到永远。。。


体谅，相信，坦白，沟通＋开心的惊喜 == 开开心心的在一起，直到永远。。。


希望还没有找到另一半的朋友们，快点找到！有另一半的，永远恩爱！


加油中的～丽雯～

给3年后的自己

突然想起了一件事。。。不懂几时，什么戏，我看到了这一幕。。。在那部戏里的主角，他在十年前给十年后的自己写下了一封信，然后埋在一个地方，十年后的这天，他去挖出那封信，看自己写给自己的信。看到这，那时的我，觉得这还不错，想想我也应该写一些“东西”给以后的自己。。哈哈！


今天，我不懂我应该写什么叻。怎么办呢？想了想，我们一直都有为自己设下一些目标，或者是计划，理想，梦想？！那我不如就写下它们，让以后的我看看现在的我是有怎样的想法，也可以让我自己看看我都底有没有改变。。哈哈！不过，我不想写给十年后的自己，我觉得太久了。。好吧，就写给3年后的自己吧！

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给3年后的自己：


今天的3年后，也就是2014年，我会住在哪里？做着什么工作呢？3年了，我到底做了这些事情吗？
1. 每年带妈妈去一个地方旅行。如果坐飞机的话，一定要坐舒服的。
2. 开始每年新年给妈妈至少RM500-RM1000红包
3. 结婚了
4. 有自己的屋子，还要是设计，挑选家具，摆设。
5. 可以开始做我自己想做的事情 - 每天可以在家学煮饭，做饼干，做蛋糕。简单来说，不用做工了。哈哈！
6. 可以随时随地回家看爸爸妈妈。
7. 3年后的我所做的离我理想，梦想还远吗？


2011今天的我是：
1。打着一份已做了3年的工，Title: Software Developer。
2。还在住着租的单位。
3。没有车，没有任何property。


好了，希望一切美好！


2011年的自己 上
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算是给了自己一些承诺吧! 那我应该要好好努力的做，去实现我3年后的事。哈哈！


朋友们，不如你也想想，你会写些什么给3年后的自己吧！

～加油～ 丽雯

Enjoyable Bangkok Trip 23 - 26 Sep 2011

Always heard people said that must go Bangkok shopping, because you will love it. Finally, I went with my friends - Sim Ying, Wendy, Weng Wee and my dear. Some of us are first time been there. A 4 days 3 nights trip there, for me, I think it is not enough. Is better to go there 5 days 4 nights, so you have enough time to visit and shopping. 


Day 1 - We reached there at about 3pm (Bangkok local time) without any delay. The Bangkok international airport is grand and big. We walked very far to claim my luggage and get the taxi to hotel. All taxi here are come from Toyota family. We paid 700THB for the big taxi to go to our hotel. It takes around 30-45 mins to reach our hotel. Along the way to hotel, can see many huge advertisement boards, a lot of buildings and highways, really a big city. Our hotel - Baiyoke Suite Hotel (3 star), recommended by SimYing's friend and sister, is located at town, nearby few shopping mall. It is nice to stay here, as it is surrounded by morning, evening, night market and near to shopping malls. After check-in hotel, we went to walk around and visit The Platinum Fashion Mall, but unfortunately, the mall is closed at 8pm, so we went to MBK shopping mall. Supposed we plan to go watch "Ah Gua" show aka "Ladyboy show", but the price is very expensive, so we decided not to go. Actually "Ah Gua" show have no exact name, it having many name of it, depends on the organizers. Plan to go watch it in the next visit to Bangkok.

Day 2 - In planning, we wish to go visit Grand Palace, Emerald Buddha and Reclining Buddha, but end up we just visit 1 which is Grand Palace due to we kena tipu and timing. The story is like this - we reached Grand Palace very early at abt 10am, and met a local tour guide there. He told us that Grand Palace will only open at 12pm, asked us to go visit other places and recommend us having boat trip to visit those places. We really trusted him and "naik a thief boat" and paid RM75 (750) per person spending 1 hour in the boat rounding the place. The most sad part is when we entered the Grand Palace, there is a notice stated "Do not trust stranger who offering boat trip." We just knew we are being cheated. OMG!!! Just forget about it, let's talk about the Grand Palace. It is charged 400THB (RM40) for entrance fee. For those who want to visit it, please remember to wear shirt with sleeve, and long pants. If not, you are required to borrow the shirt or pant or sarung there. The Grand palace is very large, we totally used up 2 hours+ walking, seeing monuments, buildings, temples, museum inside. After visit under the hot sun, we wish to go back town shopping. Haha. We just shopping at the night market surrounded the hotel downstair for 2hours, and we bought few packs of clothes. Those clothes are cheap cheap cheap and nice, but gonna buy few pieces at a stall to get cheaper price (wholesales price). Night time, we went to visit China Town and having our dinner there. Nothing much to see there, but food. 


Day 3 - We went to Chatuchak market. It is a very busy market, open from morning till evening 5pm, if not mistaken. We having our breakfast and lunch there until 3pm. It is a place must go visit. There are many variety of stalls there - clothes, bags, souvenirs, food, drinks, decorations, and etc. Some are cheap, some are normal market price. We bought a lot a lot of things there. Sim Ying, Wendy and Weng Wee some more bought a back pack bag to keep those things they bought. Like us, we wish to shop for clothes which are cheaper at Platinum Fashion mall and evening markets compare to Chatuchak, thus, we went back to hotel and shopping around hotel. Four of us - Sim Ying, Wendy, Weng Wee and me used up few hundred in 3-4 hours shopping there. We bought a lot of t-shirts, formal clothes, short pants, shoes, bags, etc. 


Day 4 - Due to our flight time is 1205, we gonna check out early at about 9.30am. But, me and Sim Ying, we don't wish to regret, and run to have final short shopping at the morning market before check out. Finally, we really bought few packs before go back. Haha. 


We spent a lot in shopping in the trip. But, truly, the clothes there are really cheaper compare to Malaysia. No wonder, there are so many people go to Bangkok shopping every year. I can say it is worth, as estimate 1 shirt can save up to RM10-15. And the clothes here are fashion, and different, you can get what you want. This trip make me feel that I wish to go Bangkok shopping every year.. Haha.. 

Facial Treatment

Just finish 2 hours+ facial treatment. Last time, before I signed the package, I always think that going to do facial treatment every month is a very good relax moment for me myself. But after I signed, just realize that is not what I imagined. 

Today the beautician helped me to do a treatment called "Rolling facial treatment". A treatment that make me wanna cry. Why I say so?! After wash and clean my face, she put a mask which having anesthesia effect on my face before start the Rolling facial treatment. First time I heard this kind of facial treatment, sounds like so serious. And this made me felt worry just now. Why it called Rolling? I think is because the treatment need to use a material like roller. The beautician use the roller + the product "rolling" my face. The roller made me feel it is full of thorn like DURIAN. Lets imagine a DURIAN is rolling on your face. Think you will feel want to cry also. SOBSOB

The beautician said after this Rolling facial treatment, the big pores on my face will be "closed" or become small pores, and face will become nice nice. But, before the moment is reached, there will be red spots, and got some "fake scare" on my face, and my face will peeling these few days, may be 1 week. 

OMG. I think the facial treatment is not that good as what I imagine of. This makes me feel that I don't know to continue to be like that anymore..

Face is feeling pain now... 

Wish to have more POWER

I always worry or scare on something new to me. I always lack of brave to fight the things i need, fight to get the things i wish to have. I always do not have enough confident to do everything. These are my weak points. I really wish to overcome all these to make myself more powerful to handle my life.


Wish to ask HOW? Anyone can teach me how to gain more brave? how to gain more confident? How ? How?
These obstacles are blocked me many months already. I really wish to change, wish to jump over those obstacles to another step of life.. 


By Keep thinking HOW to become More CONFIDENT, BRAVE, POWER - Lawins

Emotional

Although it was over, but I wish to write out here to always remind myself - DO NOT SO EMOTIONAL anymore. 

I realized that my works make me be emotional in office and get too emotional on works recently just because the project. The project supposed gonna finish in 6 months, but finally, due to change request from end users, the project schedule is expanded to 1 year. Now, it is live. I thought it is time to leave the project and the project will be on going smoothly. BUT, we can't change the fade, the project returns with lots of change requests, issues, and bugs. 

Yesterday, again, I almost argued with my project team lead due to the change request. I really don't understand and don't agree that requests from end users. The changes are not to change slightly, to make the report/features better, but, the changes are totally change the features/reports to another new 1. These made me felt that what I had done previously are WASTED, RUBBISH. What for?! I really feel sad on it. BUT, no matter how, "users are always right". 

Thus, I need to change, don't let the works make me be emotional, don't get too emotional on works. I should familiar with this kind of situation. My life should fulfill with full of joy and happiness.

BY ready to go on 的 赖微思

人不应只看一面

我发现，其实，我们不应只看人的一面。。何谓一面呢？我说的一面是我们不应只听一个人的片面之词，应该听各有关人士的话语，才裁判到底是谁对谁错，不应太早下定论。。

我曾经因为只听甲的comment，然后就断定是乙的错，后来才发现原来不是这样的，也因此而误会了乙。我也曾经被人因此也误会了我。所以呢，有时候，不应只听一人的话，就做出决定，可想想，甲也未必知道整件事情的来龙去脉，他也有可能只是可旁听者。。。

我真不想自己被人这样误会，也不想自己因这样去误会别人。。

朋友，是应该多点信任，适当的关心，适当的关怀。如果他只是初犯，我们就不认他做朋友，未免太绝了！身边多个朋友，好过多个敌人。。

睡醒

今天，一睡醒，就告诉自己，开心点，今天将会是快乐的一天。。。

其实，睡醒的第一个感觉是很重要的！它会直接影响你整天的心情。。如果，你一睡醒，就告诉自己好累，不想上班，不想做任何事。哪，那一整天，你将慵懒地过。。。如果，你一醒来，就告诉自己，“喔，太好了，真是美好的一天，好期待今天的行程。。。” 哪，你呀，将会过着充实，又开心的一天。。你的感觉是会直接影响你的心情哦！

要开开心心地过每一天，不妨试试看！

Perfect Nightmare

Shontella - Perfect Nightmare
Sometimes we fight 
Sometimes I cry 
Why don't I 
Just tell him goodbye 
Sometimes I should 
But sometimes I don't 
Build up the strength to 
Say that it's wrong 
Sometimes I hate 
Sometimes I love 
Sometimes I hurt 
Sometimes I don't 
Sometimes I wait 
For him to change 
But it's okay 
I've disguised the pain 
And I don't ever wanna leave him alone 
They say i'm brainwashed but i'm in love 
With this man 
Yeah 

Keep telling myself that it's not worth it 
I already know I don't deserve it 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
So when will I wake up and scream 
No way (x7) 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
Perfect nightmare 

Sometimes I keep my cool 
Sometimes I let him know 
Sometimes I even pack my bags to walk out the door 
Sometimes I feel safe 
Sometimes I really don't 
Sometimes I promise that i'm ready to let him go 
But I don't ever wanna leave him alone 
They say i'm brainwashed but i'm in love 
With this man      Ohh ohhh 

Keep telling myself that it's not worth it 
I already know I don't deserve it 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
So when will I wake up and scream 
No way (x7) 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
Perfect nightmare 

Hoping he's changing 
But i'm scared he's not 
Can't see a way to leave 
Help me open my eyes 

Keep telling myself that it's not worth it 
I already know I don't deserve it 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
Perfect 

Keep telling myself that it's not worth it 
I already know I don't deserve it 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
So when will I wake up and scream 
No way (x7) 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
Perfect nightmare 
No way (x7) 
But if it's from you I don't mind hurting 
This is my perfect nightmare 
Perfect nightmare 
Perfect nightmare

缘份

到底怎样才叫 <缘份> 呢？

有很多人说：“ 一切随缘吧！” 或者 - “ 等缘份来咯！”  再或者 - “ 缘份未到吗？”

那你，又常说那一句《缘》呢？

我赞成缘份是存在的，缘份来是，你要挡也挡不了！但是，难道真的要在家坐着等你的缘份到吗？其实，我觉得人呀，是必须做些事，缘份才会来的。。。缘份，有时候是需要你去寻找的。。。难道你觉得你整天坐在家，那缘份会来到你家，来到你面前吗？

我还蛮喜欢 Law of Attraction 的道理，讲得还蛮对！有些事是需要你自己去吸引过来的。。。你的魅力，你的优点，是需要散发出来，别人才有机会看到，缘份自然会来。。。

所以呀，在这本书－The Secret; The Power 里，有个故事说到爱情的law of attraction. 那男生是做entertainment 工作，接触很多女生，但他都没有女朋友。有个心理学家看到他所画的图案都是女生回避的样子，就告诉他，为什么他会没有女生爱上他，是因为在他心里面，他喜欢女生回避他的样子，所以反映他不喜欢女生接近他。心理学家教他换个角度，画一些和女生一起的图案，想像他和女生一起，有女朋友。过了半年，因为他照着心理学家的话，改变了想法，actions based on mind, 就慢慢吸引了很多女生，也有个很好的女朋友，最后还结婚了。

在这故事里面，告诉我们，不要只是在那边想你的缘份，要去想像你要的缘份，去actions based on your mind，那缘份就会被你而吸引过来。。

不信吗？信不信，在于你。。。

Since there is a chance for you to try out, why not?!

p/s: 其实，law of attraction 可以用在其他的事情上，不只是在缘份，爱情上。

希望我那些还没有找到伴的朋友，是时候，想想怎样寻找的你缘份咯！

A very touching Mother's Day

Happy Belated Mother's Day to everyone!


My brother called me so suddenly yesterday, and asked "Do you want to go back with me later?" That time already 3.30pm, I get a shock, but feel happy too, because I really wish to go back home to celebrate Mother's day with my mom. So, for sure, I answered YES to my brother, and finally we get to reach home before 8pm, and brought my mom go for dinner.


Although we do not give my mother a wonderful dinner and any present, but I can feel my mom is very happy. My mom like to chit chat with us, so when she see us, she keep talking talking to us. When I saw her talking there, I really cry in my heart, as I know, she so wish her sons and daughter can go back visit her more often, can talk to her more often.. But, we cannot make it, as we working at KL/PJ and having many work loads there.


What we can do for her? What we can give to her? Do you think what you can do now?
I really wish I can give her all I can, I just wish to accompany her more, talk to her more often.


Wish you all love your parent more, always remember that your parent is always protect you since young, and always love you till the end. So, everything you do now, pls and pls think of your parent, don't just think of yourself.


~ Mom, I love U! ~ Lai Mun

First time drive car to office

Today is Sunday, I gonna go office work as usual from 9.30am - 6.30pm. So sad and pity.. T_T

Since gonna go office, so I decided to drive car to office myself. First time I so brave, and so brave drive car to office, and drive back home from office. Haha. 

Finally, I "xia ding jue xin" drive my car to office. 

Actually many people keep asking me to drive car out, but I keep saying No to them. Ya, I think too much previously, it is because the car is my dear dear 1, and I know I'm a careless, "lun zun" people, so I don't hope I crash my dear car, and I don't hope I simply drive out his car without any practice.

Seriously, at PJ/KL, those people drive car very scary, this is what I feel scare to it. For the meanwhile, I just wish to drive car to office and drive back. Hehe. 

Gambateh LaiMun!!

即将结婚的黑白配

刚刚看完20110317的康熙来了，这集主题是黑白配的结婚宣言！超感人的一集。。。黑人陈建州（黑）和范范范玮琪（白）配在一起10年了，今年是他们的第十一年，即将在五月结婚了。好羡慕他们喔！十年吔，好长的日子喔！

在节目里头，他们讲到他们是怎样认识的，怎样开始恋爱，怎样维持那感情，怎样在一起10年。。。那些故事都很感人！她在第七年的时候，有想过要放弃，想过要分手，也有想过为什么他没有向她求婚。。。他一直觉得一切都不稳定，所以迟迟都不求婚。。。什么刺激到黑人下了这决心呢？原来在他向她求婚的2天前，他们一起经历了生死的关头，让他觉得说他们应该要结婚，所以他就在2天后，在NBA的球场上，向她求婚了。。。

他们真的是很登对！好期待他们的婚礼喔！=）

梦想

梦想，对你们来说，是一件真的不可能发生的事吗？还是你也在为你的梦想而努力？或还是你更本没有想过你的梦想？或者你已经忘记了你的梦想？大家不妨想想吧！

我呢，是个很有梦的人，简单来说，我是个很喜欢发梦，造梦的人，很喜欢想象未来的我是怎样，也喜欢想想未来我希望怎样？有些人喜欢叫我不要发那么多梦了！但是，我觉得这样很好啊，有梦，人生才会变得有趣，不是吗？

我有很多梦想，也不停地在变换。但，最近我决定设下我的梦想了！我的梦想，其实很简单，就是时间自由，让我可以随时去旅行，可以带我妈妈去旅行，和我爱的人去旅行。会设下这个梦想是有原因的。我妈妈是个很喜欢这边去，那边走的人，她，这一年都一直跟我说要去哪里哪里？！其实我是知道她很想去旅行，但，目前的我，更本不能有能力可以给她很好的旅行，不能随时答应要带她去玩。虽然说“Now everyone can fly”但是我不想我妈妈坐着狭窄的位子，度过5-10个小时去到那个地方，而且她的脚也不允许她这样。

另外一个原因为什么我想要时间自由，是因为我可以有更多的时间陪我爱的人（伴侣和家人）。我呀，其实是个简单的女生，很爱家的女生。记得我朋友说我就像小鸟依人，我我应该是吧！所以我希望可以烹饪，煮一些我爱的人喜欢的食物，可以和爱的人一起享用美好的一餐，其实是很开心的。

我会为我的梦想不断地努力，我相信我可以在2年里面做到！我已经在努力了，那你呢？希望看到这的你可以想想你的梦想！想象你的未来！相信你的生活会更美好，更开心的！

向往这种生活的 ～ 丽雯～

苦中作乐

在这很忙碌的时候，偷偷地拿了些时间，在这里留话，轻松一下。。。

不知不觉的，三个月就快要过去了。。。大概应该很多人都懂我再说什么吧！ =）
对了，就是我的健康瘦身program，还有几天就功成身退了！ 哈哈！
超开心的。。


想呀想，越想就越开心，一想到以后不需要减肥了，你说是不是很开心啊？！
更开心的是，我可以帮身边的朋友，这是更加的开心。助人为快乐之本嘛。。。

好了，是时候，再继续看看我的工作，然后就要睡觉.


迎接美好的明天 -- 丽雯 --

2011兔年 行大运 兔geter ^^

今年算挺特别的，因为DEAR在29/1载我回家去了。。。算是很早就收工准备过年。。

Before 新年，31/1 我和表嫂，侄女一家人去Swiss-Garden Spa and Resort @PangkorLaut去玩玩。。那边还不错，是一个放假休闲的好地方。在里面，有海滩，游泳池，球场，餐厅等等，要jungle trekking, snorkeling, beach playing, swimming, ball games都可以，可算是应有尽有! 我们在那度过2天1夜，然后就回家去了。

1/2，妈妈煮了我最爱，而且好久没吃的Laksa。。Yummy!! Laksa是妈妈最拿手的菜肴，很多亲戚都爱吃！可惜，我忘了拍下照片。

2/2， 年三十，我们家通常是在下午吃团圆饭的，今年也不例外。。。妈妈一早就准备各样格式的菜肴，算呀算，没错的话，一共有6-7样菜吧！拜神，一起吃团圆饭，收拾，超开心的！今年，二哥不能回来，必须在Singapore做工，希望他明年可以回来一起吃吧。过后，我们还去了怡保走走。。。晚上一回到家，我呀，立刻烫衣服，准备明天的东西，到了凌晨2-3点才睡觉呀！累坏了！真特别的年三十！！

3/2 - 大年初一，我呢，早上都和妈妈一起吃斋的，不过，妈妈还是准备了丰富的早餐给爸和哥他们。吃饱了，就准备装扮，等待亲戚朋友的来临。今年，大舅他们迟了吔，快要12点了，才到我们家。他们不停的吃妈妈所作的饼干，和我们聊天，大家都很开心。过后，特别的是，我们在饭后，驾车去探访老人院，这也是我身平第一次吧！见了一些亲戚，我就出去见朋友了。。他们都是我安顺的Buddies,很好的朋友，可以和他们见面，超兴奋的！像往年一样，我们都会去PuiLi家聚聚，畅谈我们最近的状况。当然少不了的，我们还是会小赌一下。。

4/2 - 年初二，一大早就准备去我大伯家拜年，然后就赶去大舅家看舞狮，希望可以那个好彩头！！！下午呢，就到PizzaHut和我Form6的同学聚会。超就没见到他们了，不过，大家都很好。可惜的是，我们之举了2小时左右而已。。晚上，和哥哥，大嫂，妈妈去看电影-最强喜事2011，这出戏还好而已！安顺呢，只有这部喜剧，我呀，是想看I Love HK喜剧的。好戏在后头，看完戏，就去McDonald和小学同学聚会，还遇到很多认识的人。过后呢，‘赶场’，到Grace 家拜年，谈天，想说凌晨1-2点了，是时候回家了吧，怎么知道，回家路途，我们还是谈不完，最后呢，就停在Cathy家继续谈，谈到早上5点了才回家呀！好累呀！不过，也好高兴呀！

5/2 - 以为可以睡久一点，怎知道，9点还是必须起身，要出去吃肉骨茶。我们一摊一摊过，每一摊都挤满了人呀，尤其是那件最出名的。最后，我们决定Try我们没吃过的，实在不够好吃。。今天，没什么地方去了，只是去大舅家和亲戚们小赌几小时。。。这样就过了一天。。

6/2 - 很多亲戚朋友都回去KL了，新年的气氛就少了好多好多。。。我呢，就和还没回去的亲戚在小赌多一天，趁还有一天在安顺。。^^ 不过，今年新年，也赢了不少。。哈哈！！

7/2 - 是我的农历生日叻！吃了早餐，就和表姐准备回KL了。新年感觉上就这样过去了。。。回到KL，超想家的，超想念前几天的时光。。。

想念着开心的兔年新年，一开工就忙于工作的- 丽雯 - @.@

新的一年 2011

一天，一天地过去。。。这样就踏入新的一年 - 2011。


有时候会想我呀，在2010年好像什么也没做，这样就过去了。。是不是很多人都和我有一样的想法呢？再回想一下，我在2010年设下的目标也没有全部实现呀！真的应该检讨自己。。。


今年是第一次在家度过倒数夜！没有和朋友一起，没有去看烟花，还是第一年。。。不过，我很庆幸我还有Dear陪伴着我。。。


新的一年，又是时候设下一些目标给自己，希望今年可以一一达到。。。相信每个人都会有自己的目标，希望你们也可以一一实现。。。